My husband and I are expecting our first child this June. I’m in the home stretch – only 3-4 weeks to go! Once we started telling family and friends the news, invariably the first question after the congratulatory wishes was “Are you finding out the gender?” When I got to the point where strangers could recognize that I was pregnant, it was always the same question, “Do you know what you’re having?”
The answer to these inquiries is no, we’re waiting for the surprise. Most people respond by saying, “That’s great” or “That’s cool” or “Good for you for waiting!” I’m not sure if that’s really what they’re thinking, but it’s what they say. Except for my mother, of course, who tells me straight up that she would have preferred for us to find out the sex so that she (and others) could buy gender-appropriate clothing and accessories for the baby shower.
It doesn’t bother me when people ask the gender question. I generally do it myself when I find out someone is pregnant. If it was just up to me, I may have actually found out the baby’s sex, but my husband is more of a traditionalist and was all about the surprise. Now that I’ve made it this far along without knowing, I’m happy we waited. It gives me something to look forward to after the hard work of labor and delivery.
Many people have commented that waiting until a baby is born to find out the gender is the “last great surprise!” or like “being a kid on Christmas morning.” But perhaps it’s even more than that. We live in a world where information is king. Anything we could possibly want to know is seemingly at our fingertips, just a Google or Wikipedia away. When email became too slow for communicating with friends and family, we moved to instant messages, then Facebook and now Twitters. Even if we don’t use these so-called new media, it’s almost impossible to escape the information blitz of multiple cable news channels or talk radio. It’s hard to keep anything a surprise in this age of information and instant gratification.
Baby “R,” however, will be a surprise to us and the many friends and family who are anxiously awaiting his/her arrival. Sure, it’s only a 50/50 shot one way or the other, but it’s still pretty exciting. We’ll send out the emails and IMs once the baby is born, and maybe even start a family Blog. But until then, we’ll enjoy these last few weeks of not knowing … a precious commodity in today’s world.





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